The myth also says if I am too active and like to try-out new stuff and am a go-getter, no guy on this earth can ever keep up with me. Honestly, I can be really focused (read: serious) in my work/studies, and on the other hand, totally involved in fun-filled activities and sports. Hence, guys cannot predict what I would do next, and that makes them very frustrated. Typical Gemini, no? :-P
But on 2/2/2013, the myth is finally busted! After asking my parents (and god-parents) permission and telling his parents about the planned proposal, he asked me to married him at a luxury restaurant. He has already planned it for a couple of weeks, in which he wanted it to be a surprise. He produced his own scrap-book (read: handwritten photobook) about us sharing our lives in many activities and vacays together, I was literally in tears (because kam tung marrr) before he bravely knelt down and showed me the ring. I didn't say yes immediately, but remembered throwing him back a few questions while he was still kneeling: "Is the ring Lumiere?" "1 carat!?" "Not cubic zirkonia right?" Oh...I was so mean, and he has to asked me one more time(1), as I actually forgot to say "Yes".
Of course I (finally) did.
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| The self-made thoughtful photobook of us. |
I must say that this myth wasn't easily busted. We both worked hard to make our courting years work. They are not without ups and downs. But no r/ship is perfect, therefore we do not expect perfection. If I am not perfect, I do not demand perfection from him. We also do not like to copy ppl's r/ship as no one relationship is the same. Doesn't mean other happy couples do/have this or that, we have to have/do the same. The myth went busted also because he compliments me in every way.
Our needs for the same things makes it all work well. I am in my early 30s but am more mature/smart enough to know what I want/need in life, and so does he. At this age, I am basically exhausted(enough-is-enough!) in trying out new stuffs, and just would like to settle down. Well, but still you can't take sports out of our lives, esp running (for me, also swimming/teaching swimming), I hope!
Betcha there is no corrrect recipe or equation for a good and lasting r/ship or marriage. All I can do is pray. I pray that the trust, chemistry, and passion we have for each other today will continue to grow as we go into a new milestone in life. I have to say that I am lucky to find him. Of course behind the scenes, are the good introduction (FY & A) and encouragement from our close friends and families.
There! Myth busted: If the hyper, fierce (but fun), and very contradicting me can get married, any girl out there can!!
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| Enjoying a glass of NZ's pinot noir at Gobo Upstairs, Traders Shangri La |
Disclaimer: Don't take my statements too seriously. They are just my personal opinion from past experiments.
